This is a round-up of articles concerning the terrible and horrifying massacre by Elliot Rodgers.
I don’t ever talk about this because it’s Super Hard by Jess Fink
#YesAllWomen: I will not be Silent by Teresa P.
The Four Levels of Discrimination written by John Scalzi
Not All Men, but Still Too Many Men by Chuck Wendig
How Discussing Women’s Issues gets derailed by Phil Plait
I am highlighting the above articles because what happened that day was a hate crime against women, where a guy planned to murder women because he felt entitled to sex, entitled to their bodies. Our society often teaches this to young men especially, and it’s a systematic problem just as much as it is on an individual level. The above articles all make the case clear. Go read them all before making comments.
What happened that day shouldn’t have happened. Who else must die before we finally start to unravel and take down the toxicity our society teaches people? We need to teach consent and respect toward one another. We need to reevaluate how masculinity is taught: how losing one’s virginity should not be the mark of manhood; how women are not objects to be consumed; how men need to be able to express their emotions and should not be taught that showing emotion is weakness; how important it is to have empathy toward others empathized rather than have empathy denigrated (or portrayed as weakness); how men do not have to be strong at all times and never show weakness; how femininity is not inferior and not weak.
The system within our society is flawed and causing harm to women (significantly more so since sadly violence against women is far too common in our society) and men, and that needs to be fixed, but it’s going to be hard, and we all need to work together on this.